VOTE AND HAVE YOUR OPINION HEARD
The current marriage postal survey is clearly contentious and divisive – it is all over my social media feeds! Is the survey worth having? Several years ago I wanted my Federal MP to know how this constituent would like her to vote should it come to a parliamentary decision. How else was she to know the opinions of the electorate she is representing? I received a reply, arguing against reasons I had not even mentioned, informing me she would be voting without consideration to my opinion but according only to her conscience. Our understanding of ‘representation’ must be different. So is this survey worth having? YES – complete the survey and have your opinion heard.
MY VOTE IS FOR, NOT AGAINST
Having read many reasons how people are deciding their stance, it has become clear the reasons are wide and varied – in both directions – yet the survey does not ask for any. The result will simply be counted as YES or NO. I don’t want the result of my survey to be assumed so I thought I’d lay it out there …
My vocational work for the past 12 years has been for the best interests of children. I hold to the traditional view of marriage between a man and a woman as it is my opinion this is the IDEAL environment for the production, growth, development and nurturing of a child. Both a male and female need to be involved for the creation of a child (scientists can artificially fertilise an egg and sperm, but cannot artificially create zygotes), and so the full involvement of both biological parents in an exclusive and loving relationship (marriage) is (in my opinion) required for the BEST growth, development and nurturing of children. I want to see the legal definition of marriage to reflect this since children become adults that influence society and culture, and I want that influence to be the best possible. My vote is FOR the preservation of a definition that I think is to the benefit of society, not AGAINST an ideology or to restrict anyone’s freedom or rights.
PLEASE DON’T IMPLY…
- a heterosexual married family unit is the ONLY place where a child will grow and be nurtured – of course not! There are many single parents, separated parents, blended families, foster parents and parents in same-sex relationships who provide wonderfully supportive, safe and loving environments for children to thrive. Would a widower with young children prefer the mother of his children to be around? Of course. Does a single mum whose partner was abusive wish he had been loving and protective towards her and their kids? Definitely, but that was not the reality so she took the right steps for the wellbeing of herself and her children ( #DVnotOK ). Where a parent is in a same-sex relationship the other biological parent cannot be intimately involved in the parenting relationship to the same extent as married heterosexual parents, so while all these family units CAN be loving and nurturing for children I do not think they are OPTIMAL. Hence I restate that the full involvement of both biological parents in an exclusive and loving relationship (marriage) is (in my opinion) required for the BEST growth, development and nurturing of children.
- same-sex couples should not have the same legal rights as married couples – seriously(?), of course they should! Let’s change the laws to make this happen, but I’d like to see it called something different and retain “marriage” as it is. It has been speculated that members of the LGBT+ community want their relationships validated by allowing same-sex couples to marry. If this is the basis on which the validity (and hence security) of such a relationship relies on, then look at the divorce rates for heterosexual couples – it is no guarantee. Human relationships require a vulnerability with no guarantee of continued reciprocation if they are to be intimate and loving. No legal status or piece of paper will replace or guarantee it.
- couples not planning to have kids shouldn’t bother to get married. Same-sex partners can have a sexually intimate relationship that will never result in the conception of a life. The incidence of heterosexual couples falling pregnant is significantly higher. Whether they are planning to have children or not, the chances are high and so yes, I think they should get married.
- children who grow up in broken homes or with same-sex parents cannot positively influence society and culture as adults. No child is ever going to have the ideal upbringing regardless of their family dynamic. We all carry our own baggage (and add to it with our own selfishness) into relationships and adult life. I am under no illusion that heterosexual parents produce perfect kids – heck, mine aren’t! 🙂
IT’S OKAY TO VOTE NO
A quick google search means it’s not hard to discover I am a christian (I assume that’s what my federal MP did), so I’ve saved you the trouble. I do hold other biblically-based reasons for voting NO but I do not expect, nor would it be reasonable, for a non-christian society to take any heed of them. I am happy to discuss them personally should anyone be curious.
Having confidence in the democratic #freedom we enjoy in Australia I do not plan to defend further any statements I have already made and probably won’t interact in any comments ( #tolerance ). And as I always encourage children – #respect & #kindness .