What will your kids say you love?

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I’m not particularly into cricket. Watching the Boxing Day test is not something we do as part of our Christmas tradition. My kids probably think the Boxing Day test is seeing how many unsanctioned activities they can use their new toys for before they break! I’m not particularly into cricket. Some will call me un-Australian for this confession, but please read on. You see, the reason I’m not really into cricket, and why my kids are not really into cricket, is because my dad was not really into cricket. I don’t hate cricket, I’m just ambivalent about it.

So what will my kids say I love? That will be interesting, won’t it! It will depend what I talk about, what I spend our money on, what I use my time doing. Most of all, it will depend on whether I include them in what I love.

I would hope my kids would hear me talking about Jesus and perfect report card He has secured for us. I would hope being generous with our money and possessions will show my kids that all we have is His anyway, so lets use it for His glory. I would hope my kids will say that Dad loved reading His bible – whether by seeing me read it, taking it everywhere and not being distracted by notifications that come with using a device. I would hope my kids will remember being involved in reading God’s word, in serving our church, in loving others through hospitality.

Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates. Deuteronomy 6:4-9

What will your kids say you love?

Involving your kids in what you love will also show them you love them too.

 


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When we don’t keep our cool

In all our best parenting intentions, if you are anything like me, you will lose it with your kids. I’m not proud of it, I wish I could go back and change it, but what to do when we do? We could justify it because we are already juggling many balls already and this was just the icing on the cake. We could deny it as using a firm voice to make sure we were heard over the oft-loud background noise. We could hide it from our friends and neighbours with false smiles and ‘happy families’. Or we could own up to it, apologise for it (to God and our kids), and seek His help to better handle such situations in the future. Should we be surprised when we sin in this way? I don’t think so, but ignoring it is not a solution either.

If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us.  1 John 1:8

In His mercy, God has forgiven our sins, and so we can freely confess them to Him (along with all the other sin from each day).

Continuing in 1 John…

If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.

Let’s also not beat ourselves up with guilt, we all fall short of God’s glory.

We have been promised a helper, the Holy Spirit, for which we can pray to bear the fruit of self-control. The other fruits of the spirit are pretty helpful in parenting too.

22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control.Against such things there is no law. 24 Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.25 Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit. 26 Let us not become conceited, provoking and envying each other.
Gal 5:22-26

As for other physical things we can do, these tips from a secular parenting blogger can be helpful too. Do your parenting intentions live up to your parenting reality?


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Unconditional love: the fine print

I love you more than coffee but not always before coffee

I’d like to think my love for my kids is unconditional, and in a sense it is. I will love them no matter what they do. Unfortunately my loving them is conditional in that it depends on me.

Loving our kids unconditionally requires loving them when they are not lovely – when they’re disobedient, argumentative and throwing a tantrum out in public, when they yell at your face, “I hate you!” instead of “I respectfully disagree with your decision for these reasons…” How I respond in these difficult situations is conditional on me – how much sleep I’ve had, how full my love tank is, how calm/stressed I am about other things, etc. There have been times when these have gotten the better of me and the results were not my finest parenting moments.

How then, in our flawed state, can we show unconditional love to our kids? Show them the one who can love unconditionally – Jesus. He is love (1Jn 4:8) and so can never be emptied of it. So great is his love that “neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” (Rom 8:39). So apologise to them when needed and reinforce for them the forgiveness we have in Jesus. It is just as well Jesus loves the unlovely, otherwise He wouldn’t be able to love me (or you).

Unconditional love sounds wonderful, and it is wonderful when we see it for what it is – a gift from God in spite of our imperfection.

he saved us, not because of righteous things we had done, but because of his mercy. He saved us through the washing of rebirth and renewal by the Holy Spirit, (Titus 3:5)

He can help us love our kids better by changing our hearts and helping us make wise decisions, but this side of heaven we will never be able to love unconditionally, thanks be to God for His mercy.


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